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Like you, I generally don't care what the prevailing opinion is on matters, especially if it's something that I find to be meaningful to me. However, people as a whole tend to follow trends. If enough people start following a trend then it starts to appear that even those close to you, those loved ones, share the popular opinion as well. I was referring to community as anyone who considers themselves a BL as the average non-BL sees us all as the same. As I said, I was hesitant to use the pro-c/anti-c terms as my main point was not to fuel animosity. My reference to us as all one community, whether we personally interact with each other or not, was a nod to this point as well. My intention was, as you said, to encourage people like you and I to keep the culture going. Sometimes we need to re-assert our pride in our positions and culture so that those who may be new or more prone to follow trends are reassured. You and I may know where we stand on issues, but if we don't vocalize them, people will assume that opinion has fallen out of vogue. Again, not a chastisement by any means, but simply meant to be an encouragement.  |