they were in danger

If you'd done the responsible thing and informed them when the kids were babies then this would never have happened. You showed that you couldn't be trusted by #1 downplaying your offense as non contact and #2 keeping your inclinations a secret for all these years. How do you expect them to support you in your recovery if you never ask for help, but rather help yourself to alone time with their kids? Also not too bright to share these personal details here. You are just asking to be doxxed and if you think your criminal record disturbed them just how do you think they'd react to reading your BC #DOSSIER? Do yourself a favor and don't expand more tomorrow, since the individuals who typically pump people for information are likely to use that information for their own selfish purposes. One you hit that post button you lose all control over what happens with your story. If you want to talk to someone about this do what you should have done in the first place and talk to your trusted irl friends.