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Tell us you never talk to kids without telling us

Posted by Tyred on 2025-June-24 22:23:21, Tuesday
In reply to Best to not try to BE like a child today posted by slvrspun on 2025-June-24 12:22:20, Tuesday

All of those words and phrases are so old and common that it's hard to imagine that someone could be as clueless as these interviewers. Anyone who spends any time at all with kids has heard this vocabulary for years now. The only way someone could be this clueless with how actual kids these days speak would be if they only interacted with pictures and videos of kids, but never converse with actual young people.

Boylovers tend to start speaking like their young friends due to a phenomenon called linguistic convergence, or in other words treating boys as equals. We accommodate (match the language of) those who we respect and who's opinions we value. Sources say this could be part of the reason certain bls are "boy magnets." Boys appreciate being spoken to with respect and not speaking down to them, and in turn often return the favor by picking up lingo and speech patters from their afs.

"But there is a power dynamic inherent to interpersonal convergence. Convergence has a tendency to veer in the direction of the speech patterns of the interlocutor with the higher status in the situation. This is why, during a job interview, the interviewee is almost always the one making every effort to accommodate and adapt to the way that the interviewer is speaking, rather than vice versa. In general, speakers with a higher need for approval and/or reduced attachment to their cultural or linguistic identity tend to converge more to the people they are speaking to. In contrast, people on the receiving end of a high level of convergence tend to develop greater self-esteem and satisfaction than those who receive very little accommodation."

Obviously not all bls. Take the way Scrotus talked to Lial for example. The old codger went out of his way to talk df his bullyinrget of his bullying, especially choosing lingo and phrasing that emphasized distance and lack of empathy. That's what linguists call "divergence." The OP's suggestion that you'll be ridiculous if you try to talk like your young friends only applies if you (like the man in the video) go out of your way to use a young person's language in an over the top insulting way, which serves to emphasize differences rather than recognizing similarities.

The key to linguistic convergence is that it has to arise naturally from the fertile fields of everyday conversations with one or more young people. You can't just watch a "How to Talk Like A Kid" youtube tutorial and expect to pull it off. Those of us who speak naturally and at ease with our young friends don't even notice that each other have adopted each other's mannerisms and lingo. That's just a natural part of being a friend.

Something those with ten terabyte drives of boy pictures andexperience.l never experience.
Tyred

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