You said 'conference'

Ask most people which words they associate with "conference" and if they spend much time with kids the first thing that will come to mind is the parent/teacher conference, which, if you hadn't heard, is a custom here in America where the teachers and parents meet up after school once or twice a year, just to introduce themselves and chat. It was just a word association, nothing all that deep. As for showering with children in your aoa, as long as your actions were not for the purpose of gratifying yourself sexually then you were doing nothing wrong. MAPs can be found in all kinds of positions, from doctors to coaches to camp counselors to TSA agents, where they interact with children undressing, and as long as they keep their behavior between the appropriate guardrails, their love of children probably makes them better at their job. You have said many times here and elsewhere that you don't violate children's boundaries because you have self control. While that's not a bad thing, are you sure that you deserve to be commended for controlling yourself around children in general and your son in particular? Welcome to being a normal human being. That being said, in this world mostly bereft of MAP role models where young people rarely get much sex education at all and almost never from the perspective of the child attracted MAP, wouldn't you agree that part of accepting youth MAPs into a community should be assuming that not all of them will be blessed with your innate respect for children's boundaries? Sure, most "pedophiles" don't act on their sexual impulses, but isn't it more respectful and responsible to set them up with an environment most conducive to their success? Chaperones and policies designed to keep self identified pedophiles from being put into situations where they have the opportunity to "offend" just make sense. If you are going to get involved with the MAP movement, you are most likely going to interact with a lot of people who had some sort of issues that led to them having to face their sexuality and for a lot of people that meant getting into trouble. It's fine of you want to represent yourself here as the perfect celibate pedophile who "isn't doing anything wrong" (as they say) but when you argue that communities should just assume that all others, including sex offenders and horny youth who are just discovering their sexuality, are just as perfect as you portray yourself to be here, well, that's setting the community, the children and the MAPs themselves up for failure.