it depends on what you are coming out as

Don't come out as a "proud pedophile." The p word has lost all connection it might have once had to childlove and besides the rare back alley message board or website, people hearing the p word are going to panic, with visions of Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer going through their minds. But many people have earned reputations as "guy who loves kids," and "kid magnet" or "kid whisperer," due to the fact that out in the real world people value adults who love children and appreciate those adults who show special skills at communicating with kids. Normal people notice how their children light up with excitement when that one special adult is mentioned. Don't listen to those negative people such as Popcorn who try to paint the whole world as ruined and petty and hateful. Sure some people are negative and harshly judgemental towards adults who show kindness to their kids, but most people aren't like that. It all comes down to what you value. Do you value the label "pedophile" or are you willing to suppress your precious "identity" in exchange for actual real life connections with real life families who cherish your relationship with their children. Those who earn a reputation for inappropriate or criminal behavior with children often lose the option to have authentic relationships within their community, in which case they end up with a lot of free time on their hands which they use to spread those same toxic attitudes that got them banned from associating with children as an identity they suggest others adopt. If people want to adopt that identity it's on them, but if that's how you view yourself, you better keep that to yourself or else you are likely to be at the very least shunned if not arrested.