We can all sympathize with those who out of desperation and desire for sexual encounter engaged in these practices. That doesn't make these practices a good thing necessarily. What I really want to draw attention to is how this man's life is being strangely categorized. I think it tells us more about the participants here than anything to do with this particular BL or his actions. Imagine a gay man (or a straight man for that matter) telling you that he was a successful lover and had lived a "full life" as a gay man because he had sex with many adult male prostitutes. If that doesn't get you to see how ridiculous it is to categorize "success" and "full life" by the number of paid partners that you had then perhaps nothing will. How is successful life fullness in any way associated with paying for sex with a prostitute? It's as though so many have been trapped for so long in the boylove information bubble that they don't realize how ridiculous it is to think that way. If you want a better way to think about success and a full life as a BL then imagine being the godparent to your YF's offspring, or cheering him on when he got his degree in engineering from a well known university. Those are far better indicators than how many too-old teens you paid some shady pimp for in Holland in the eighties! |